A ton of work goes into planning a wedding or event. You’ll spend hours, days, or months preparing for your big day. Once you’ve got it all down, you will relay all of it to you coordinator, your florist, your DJ, and maybe even your photographer and videographer.
Once that happens, if you have professional vendors, each person to whom you gave all of that information will spend hours figuring out the best way to take what you gave them and implement it all accordingly, in the fashion that not only achieves all of your goals, but also makes it easy as possible to for them to do exactly what you want for your event, so the day of your wedding, all you will need to do is allow yourself to enjoy your day, the event, and your new spouse. When you don’t let that happen, no matter how many hours were put into coordinating the proper execution of the specific requests you made for your event, it likely will not go the way you had hoped.
I always sit down with new clients with the understanding that everyone’s personality is different. I try to gauge their personality and work with them in a manner that most appropriately coincides with what they are used to. That being said, it is also upto the individual client to understand that I am doing the best job I can for them, and that they need to trust that the florist, the photographers, coordinator and I are all professionals and have years of experience creating perfect weddings. With that in mind, the day of your wedding, the best thing for you to do is to let go of the reins and trust that we all know exactly what we are doing, have listened to exactly what you want, and have figured out a way to make it happen that will most likely exceed your expectations. However, when a client allows him or herself to get so wrapped up in the details on the day of their wedding, they not only risk the fluidity of their wedding, but they typically ruin the experience for their spouse and their guests.
It certainly is not normally intentional. Usually it’s a product of their upbringing and simply a personality trait that makes them very hands-on. When brides or grooms allow themselves to get wound up with the minutiae on the day that is supposed to be the biggest day of their life, no matter how good the vendor claims to be or how much planning went into the event, SOMETHING is bound to, at the very least, appear to go wrong because the client was unable to simply enjoy the event and got so busy thinking about what would happen next that they forgot to enjoy the event that was currently happening, and in some cases, miss the fact that they had already done something they were looking forward to!
The bottom line is that you have likely spent a lot of your hard earned money to hire vendors highly capable of giving you the wedding you want and deserve. On your wedding day, even if you’re the type that always feels the need to be completely hands-on, for that one day, for yourself, your new spouse and your guests, trust in your vendors and let things happen the way you planned before the wedding! Don’t worry if it looks for a minute like something is not happening exactly on time. It will probably happen as soon as you start to wonder about it. After all, a good coordinator and emcee/DJ will be working together throughout the night to ensure that everything is going smoothly for everyone in attendance.
***Geoff Maddox has been a professional wedding and event emcee and DJ for over 15 years. He has appeared on TV and has been interviewed by various news outlets about his books and how he helps couples avoid vendor scams and advises them on ways to have their dream wedding without breaking the bank.